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Responsibility is not the same as obligation and parenthood is a great example of this.
When your child is small, you do not get to opt out of care. You get up, you hold them, breastfeed them, you care for their needs. And this does not always feel convenient. It’s not misalignment - it’s devotion.
There’s so many pieces to this conversation.
For example: How do you ask for help? What can you put down? How do you tend to your energy so caring for your children does not turn into resentment? This is a living conversation and changes as your children grow.
Is this relatable? Book a call to talk about my 1:1 private work, Legacy of Love.
We will work on these things and so much more:
• Clarifying your values as a parent and a woman
• Reducing resentment in motherhood and showing up for your family honestly
• Learning how to ask for support without guilt
• Creating sustainable rhythms so care does not drain you
• Honoring your needs without abandoning yourself or your family’s needs
I would love to hear how this landed for you. Share in the comments or send me a message. And listen to Episode 121, Obligation Versus Desire.
• Responsibility Is Not Obligation
• The Difference Between Obligation and Care
• Motherhood, Responsibility, and Choice
• When Care Becomes Resentment
• The Values Beneath Parenting
#desireasmedicine #obligationversusdesire #motherhoodtruth #consciousparenting #womenswork
Living in obligation only lasts so long because the price climbs quietly. Maybe you are miserable, over scheduled, snapping at people you love?
This is not a personality flaw. It’s self abandonment. Obligation often looks responsible on the outside while eroding you from the inside. The wake up moment arrives when you admit you do not want to keep living this way. That moment of wake up can be confronting because it means you either need to change your behavior or choose to stay stuck and miserable.
I get it, I have been there.
This episode is rom Episode 121 of the Desire as Medicine podcast, Obligation Verses Desire.
If this is you, reach out about private coaching with me, because we will focus on:
• Recognizing when obligation shows up as resentment, anger, or burnout
• Naming the hidden payoffs of people pleasing
• Seeing how self abandonment impacts your family and relationships
• Interrupting obligation patterns before they harden into resentment
• Building the capacity to choose what is best for you and your family
• Reclaiming your energy, honesty, and love
I would love to hear how this landed for you. Share in the comments or send me a message. And listen to Episode 121, Obligation Versus Desire.
#desireasmedicine #obligationversusdesire #selfabandonment #womenswork #emotionalburnout
Brenda and Catherine are LIVE ✨ talking about🔥Obligation: Episode 121🔥
Why is it so hard to speak your true yes and no, especially during the holidays? 🎄
This conversation sets the stage for more honesty with your yes and no. 💬
Check out our line up for December on 🔥Obligation and Speaking your True Yes and No🔥
Let us know what you’re leaving with in the comments.
Thanks for listening and Happy Holidays 💛🌙✨
#podcast #podcastlive #obligation #boundaries #sayingyes #sayingno #truth #authenticity #holidaystress #holidayboundaries #personalgrowth #selfawareness #emotionalhealth #innerwork #mindset #selftrust #womenwhopodcast #consciousliving #healingjourney #communication #relationshipskills #selfdevelopment #growthmindset #liveconversation #realtalk #honesty #clarity #intentionality #holidays #podcastlife
No way does Qoya go this fast, but I couldn’t resist 🤣
Qoya invites you to:
❄️ move to remember
🌙 call upon the wisdom of nature
🔥 tap into tour WISE WILD & FREE
🌊 listen to your body
⚡️ trust your body’s sensations
✨ have fun
How can you lean into these invitations today?
Join me in January for the next Qoya class🙏🏼
💃🏾Looking forward to dancing together💃🏾
xoxo Brenda
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Day 16/16 Qoya
Today: Digestion & Invitations
Thank you for joining me for 16 days of QOYA.
Qoya invites us to remember.
And to know that our essence is like nature: WISE, WILD & FREE.
How can you move your body in a way that is authentic and most nourishing to your body right now?
Join me for my next Qoya class on January 17 with the theme of POSSIBILITY.
The link is in my bio
Let’s Keep Dancing - together!
Much love
Xoxo Brenda
Day 15/16 Qoya
Today: Harvesting Collective Wisdom
Tomorrow: Digestion + Invitation for MORE DANCING
Check out Days 1-14 on my insta ✨
Let’s Dance Together / Saturday, Dec 13 / link in bio to register
virtual so join from anywhere
Theme: Light in the Darkness
thank you for dancing with me 🙏🏼
#QoyaJourney #QoyaMovement #EmbodiedRitual #DevotionalMovement #MovementAsPrayer #YogaAsPrayer #SacredEmbodiment #LightAndShadow #EmbodyTheLight #MoveThroughTheDark #ShadowAlchemy #DanceOfLight #WinterLight #DanceTogether #EmbodyHealing #SomaticJourney #HealingInCommunity #RitualInMotion #SoulfulMovement #DecemberEnergy #VirtualRetreat #SeasonOfLight #RitualOfReturning
Do you ever just dance? For the fun of it?
I dance every day…I’m really happy when I’m dancing💃🏾
And dancing with others is a whole different ballgame - feeling each others energy and having fun together.
It’s a mood changer and a powerful reset for your nervous system. Hormones are released, like dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin, flooding your system with feelings of pleasure, connection, inspiration, focus and increases your mood, internal safety and is a stress reliever.
I mean, wow 🤩
Let’s dance together!
Qoya Inspired Movement where we tap into our natural essence that we are like nature: wise, wild and free.
Saturday / Dec 13 / 12pm est / online / $11
Theme: 🌑Light in the Darkness🌙
Link in bio or dm me
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Day 14/16 Qoya Class
Today: Rest & Relaxation
Tomorrow: Harvesting Collective WisdomShaking + Regulation
Check out Days 1-13 on my insta ✨
Let’s Dance Together / Saturday, Dec 13 / link in bio to register
virtual so join from anywhere
Theme: Light in the Darkness
thank you for dancing with me 🙏🏼
#QoyaJourney #QoyaMovement #EmbodiedRitual #DevotionalMovement #MovementAsPrayer #YogaAsPrayer #SacredEmbodiment #LightAndShadow #EmbodyTheLight #MoveThroughTheDark #ShadowAlchemy #DanceOfLight #WinterLight #DanceTogether #EmbodyHealing #SomaticJourney #HealingInCommunity #RitualInMotion #SoulfulMovement #DecemberEnergy #VirtualRetreat #SeasonOfLight
I hear from parents all the time how the day starts and ends with pressure. Part of why I left education is because it became all about pushing, production and testing 🫠
Without rest and down time in our lives, we lose space for creativity and new thoughts to emerge. You lose your natural rhythm. Rest restores clarity and opens the space for imagination.
Are you willing to be a little bored? 🥹
In private coaching with me, we focus on your relationship with yourself:
• You learn to hear your own signals before exhaustion hits
• You build simple practices that reset your system fast
• You strengthen trust in your inner yes and your inner no
This clip is from ✨Episode 120 Redefining Rest✨that ⚡️JUST DROPPED ⚡️of the Desire as Medicine podcast, link in bio.
Tell me how this lands for you and reach out if you are interested in working together. Links in bio.💜
Sending love and rest to you xoxo
#rest #restpractice #nervoussystemreset #motherhoodjourney #healingjourney #innerguidance #selfconnection #selfsupport #womenwhopodcast #somatichealing #qoya #desireasmedicine #podcastclip #healingtools #mindbodypractice #mindbodyhealth #restisresistance #burnoutrecovery #slowdown #creativeflow #groundedliving #emotionalhealth #momlifebalance #innerwork #bodywisdom #embodiedliving #highlysensitivewomen #healingforwomen #restrituals #dailyreset
Day 13/16 Qoya Class
Today: 🙆🏾♀️STRETCHING🤸
Tomorrow: ✨Rest & Relaxation✨
Check out Days 1-12 on my insta ✨
Let’s Dance Together / Saturday, Dec 13 / link in bio to register
virtual so join from anywhere
Theme: 🔥Light in the Darkness🔥
thank you for dancing with me 🙏🏼
#QoyaJourney #QoyaMovement #EmbodiedRitual #DevotionalMovement #MovementAsPrayer #YogaAsPrayer #SacredEmbodiment #LightAndShadow #EmbodyTheLight #MoveThroughTheDark #ShadowAlchemy #DanceOfLight #WinterLight #DanceTogether #EmbodyHealing #SomaticJourney #HealingInCommunity #RitualInMotion #SoulfulMovement #DecemberEnergy #VirtualRetreat #SeasonOfLight #RitualOfReturning
Day 12/16 Qoya Class
Today: 💃🏽Free Dance💃🏽
Tomorrow:StretchingShaking + Regulation
Check out Days 1-11 on my insta ✨
Let’s Dance Together / Saturday, Dec 13 / link in bio to register
virtual so join from anywhere
Theme: 🔥Light in the Darkness🔥
thank you for dancing with me 🙏🏼
#QoyaJourney #QoyaMovement #EmbodiedRitual #DevotionalMovement #MovementAsPrayer #YogaAsPrayer #SacredEmbodiment #LightAndShadow #EmbodyTheLight #MoveThroughTheDark #ShadowAlchemy #DanceOfLight #shookmeallnightlong #DanceTogether #EmbodyHealing #SomaticJourney #HealingInCommunity #RitualInMotion #SoulfulMovement #DecemberEnergy #VirtualRetreat #80sdancemusic #acdcforever
Day 11/16 Live Qoya Class
Today: 💃🏽Choreography Dance 💃🏽
Tomorrow: Free DanceShaking + Regulation
Check out Days 1-10 on my insta ✨
Let’s Dance Together / Saturday, Dec 13 / link in bio to register
virtual so join from anywhere
Theme: 🔥Light in the Darkness🔥
thank you for dancing with me 🙏🏼
#QoyaJourney #QoyaMovement #EmbodiedRitual #DevotionalMovement #MovementAsPrayer #YogaAsPrayer #SacredEmbodiment #LightAndShadow #EmbodyTheLight #MoveThroughTheDark #ShadowAlchemy #DanceOfLight #WinterLight #DanceTogether #EmbodyHealing #SomaticJourney #HealingInCommunity #RitualInMotion #SoulfulMovement #DecemberEnergy #VirtualRetreat #SeasonOfLight #RitualOfReturning
It takes courage, resilience and yes, a little DELULU, to follow the path of desire when a clear path may not be obvious.
You're putting one foot in front of the other, having no idea where the path may lead.
But do you give up?
No, keep TRUSTING, following the desire - the CALLING ON YOUR SOUL - that may or may not ever manifest.
It's not about the manifesting. (although that is super fun)
It's about FOLLOWING a vision you have for yourself and how it GROWS and EVOLVES you along the way.
>>Your desires are prescribed specifically for you<<
Your Vision Board is a visual reminder of what you want - bc let's face it - it’s easy to forget your desires as life gets busy. It’s easy to focus on problems or get caught up in our mistakes or what goes wrong.
Following desire is a Dance of holding a vision, not gripping or attaching to what it may look like bcit may just be better than your wildest dreams!
By creating a Vision Board, you're backing yourself. Every time you look at your VB you remember your desires and what they feel like in your heart/mind/soul.
You are holding space for POSSIBILITY.
💫So shall your desires be, and even better than they can imagine💫
Listen to my Desire as Medicine podcast, cohosted with the incredible @coachcatherinen to feel seen and inspired on your journey of desire. @desireasmedicinepodcast 🔥
DM me for a private Vision Board session or to teach in your course/studio/class.
Thank you to the amazing 11 woman who created VBs with me on Saturday and for @ritualyogaossining for hosting me. I had the best time creating with you all.
xoxo Brenda
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Day 10/16 Live Qoya
Today: ⚡️Shaking + Nervous System Regulation✨
Tomorrow: 💃🏽Choreography Dance 💃🏽Shaking + Regulation
Check out Days 1-9 on my insta ✨
Let’s Dance Together / Saturday, Dec 13 / link in bio to register
virtual so join from anywhere
Theme: 🔥Light in the Darkness🔥
thank you for dancing with me 🙏🏼
#QoyaJourney #QoyaMovement #EmbodiedRitual #DevotionalMovement #MovementAsPrayer #YogaAsPrayer #SacredEmbodiment #LightAndShadow #EmbodyTheLight #MoveThroughTheDark #ShadowAlchemy #DanceOfLight #WinterLight #DanceTogether #EmbodyHealing #SomaticJourney #HealingInCommunity #RitualInMotion #SoulfulMovement #DecemberEnergy #VirtualRetreat #SeasonOfLight #RitualOfReturning
Day 9/16 Live Qoya Class
Today: 🌑Shadow Contrast Dance🌙
Tomorrow: Shaking + Regulation
Check out Days 1-8 on my insta ✨
Let’s Dance Together / Saturday, Dec 13 / link in bio to register
virtual so join from anywhere
Theme: 🔥Light in the Darkness🔥
thank you for dancing with me 🙏🏼
#QoyaJourney #QoyaMovement #EmbodiedRitual #DevotionalMovement #MovementAsPrayer #YogaAsPrayer #SacredEmbodiment #LightAndShadow #EmbodyTheLight #MoveThroughTheDark #ShadowAlchemy #DanceOfLight #WinterLight #DanceTogether #EmbodyHealing #SomaticJourney #HealingInCommunity #RitualInMotion #SoulfulMovement #DecemberEnergy #VirtualRetreat #SeasonOfLight #RitualOfReturning
I have been in DEEP REST and restoration mode since October.
Staying home, eating nourishing foods, drinking green juice, keeping life simple.
Yoga, walks on the beach, morning clearing calls with a friend.
My body craved STILLNESS after a busy few months of wonderfulness.
It has felt GLORIOUS to honor that need.
I put my business down and let what wanted to emerge come forward ; QOYA.
And a new business platform: Ivorey✨
I brought Qoya into my days - dancing! - and making fun playlists by the fire.
The spaciousness of REST invited new energy, new desires, new inspiration.
This has been just as GLORIOUS.
I have felt creative fire, juicy energy, sexy aliveness, joy moving through my body. My goodness this is incredible.
I was reading about the jaguar who rests and feasts in perfect harmony. Jaguars feel no urgency. When they have a need, they honor it and I have very much been experiencing this lately. And it feels amazing.
Join me for Qoya on Saturday, December 13 at 12pm est - online - link in my bio.
#rest #deeprest #restoration #slowliving #nourishyourbody #stillnesspractice #qoya #qoyamovement #qoyadance #creativeenergy #creativefire #feminineenergy #somatichealing #embodiedliving #movementmedicine #mindbodyconnection #beachwalks #yogapractice #simpleliving #winterrest #honoryourbody #innerguidance #intuitionled #seasonofrest #healingjourney #selfconnection #selfcarepractice #replenishyourenergy #groundyourbody #innerquiet
Day 8/16 Live Qoya Class
Today: Yoga as Prayer
Tomorrow: 🌑Shadow Contrast Dance🌕
Check out Days 1-7 on my insta ✨
Let’s Dance Together on Saturday, Dec 13.
Theme: 🔥Light in the Darkness🔥
——->Link in bio to sign up - it’s virtual so join from anywhere ♥️
thank you for dancing with me 🙏🏼
#QoyaJourney #QoyaMovement #EmbodiedRitual #DevotionalMovement #MovementAsPrayer #YogaAsPrayer #SacredEmbodiment #LightAndShadow #EmbodyTheLight #MoveThroughTheDark #ShadowAlchemy #DanceOfLight #WinterLight #DanceTogether #EmbodyHealing #SomaticJourney #HealingInCommunity #RitualInMotion #SoulfulMovement #DecemberEnergy #VirtualRetreat #SeasonOfLight #RitualOfReturning
Day 7/16 Live Qoya Class
Today: Hip Opening👅
Tomorrow:
Check out Days 1-6 on my insta ✨
Let’s Dance Together on Saturday, Dec 13🔥
Theme: ✨Light in the Darkness💫
Link in bio to sign up - it’s virtual so join from anywhere
thank you for dancing with me 🙏🏼
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Qoya is based on the idea that through movement, we remember. We remember our essence is, like nature, wise, wild and free. And that we are all woven together, with each other and with nature.
Wise Wild Free is the wisdom we call on in a Qoya class.
WISE calls on the spirit of contemplative practice, yoga, meditation and stillness. Those moment when we FEEL it in your bones, we know it in our gut.
WILD calls on the opportunity for authentic expression in dance. A flower blooming wouldn’t say am I too much? No it just blooms - getting curious for full expression and how to feel natural and wild.
FREE calls on intuitive ways of moving to choose what feels best to you. We have a choice point to explore and acknowledge where to put our attention , the freedom to choose what would be most nourishing and supportive right now?
In all these practices, in Qoya, know there is no way you can do it wrong, and the way you know you’re doing it right is when you’re on the path of staying connected to yourself.
𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘥𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘮𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘣𝘰𝘥𝘺 𝘪𝘯 𝘢 𝘸𝘢𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧?
𝗝𝗼𝗶𝗻 𝗺𝗲 𝗼𝗻 𝗦𝗮𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗱𝗮𝘆, 𝗗𝗲𝗰𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿 𝟭𝟯 𝗮𝘁 𝟭𝟮-𝟭:𝟮𝟬𝗽𝗺 𝗲𝘀𝘁
💫L𝗜𝗚𝗛𝗧 𝗜𝗡 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗗𝗔𝗥𝗞𝗡𝗘𝗦𝗦✨
Link in bio or DM me.
𝗟𝗲𝘁'𝘀 𝗗𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗧𝗼𝗴𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿💫
#qoya #qoyamovement #qoyaclass #wisewildfree #movementpractice #somaticmovement #dancepractice #intuitivemovement #embodiedmovement #embodimentcoach #mindbodyconnection #womenswellness #womenwhodance #movementheals #somatichealing #yogainspired #meditationpractice #authenticexpression #feminineenergy #healyourbody #healyourlineage #traumahealingjourney #selfconnection #selftrust #selfcarepractice #nourishyoursoul #danceclass #consciousmovement #communityhealing #lightinthedarkness
Day 6/16 Live Qoya Class is BACK!
Today: 💜Heart Opening💜
Tomorrow: Hipppp Opening!
Check out Days 1-5 on my insta ✨
thank you for joining me 🙏🏼
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Day 5/16 Live Qoya Class
Today: Circling & Water🌊
Tomorrow: Hip Opening
Check out Days 1-4 on my insta ✨
thank you for joining me 🙏🏼
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Every choice you make in honor of yourself matters. When you choose what aligns with your values, you build a life that feels true. Big milestones feel good, yet the small daily Yessss shape your path the most.
Reach out to me about my Legacy of Love 1:1 work💜
Some benefits you will experience:
✨Strengthening trust in your inner voice
✨Returning to your body for guidance
✨Choose your path with steady clarity
This clip is from Episode 117 of the Desire as Medicine podcast, link in bio. I would love to hear how this episode lands for you.
#desireasmedicine #desirework #embodiment #healingjourney #selftrust #microdecisions #innerwork #alignmentpractice #somatichealing #motherhoodjourney #cyclebreaking #generationalhealing #womensupportingwomen #innerwisdom #selfleadership #selfcarematters #healingpath #emotionalclarity #nervoussystemhealth #personalpower #intentionalchoices #mindbodyconnection #womenwhogrow #selfresponsibility #inneralignment #sacreddesire #podcastclip #reelitfeelit #coachingjourney #mindfulchoices
Day 4/16 Live Qoya Class.
Today: intention Setting
Tomorrow: Circling & Water
thank you for joining me💜💜
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Day 3/16 Live Qoya Class.
Today: Goddess Card
I’ll post the card in my stories if you want to look at it more 💜
Would love to hear what came up for you around it.
Tomorrow: Intention Setting
thank you for joining me 🙏🏼
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Day 2/16 of Live Qoya Class. Today: Intro of class theme: Living Gratitude 🙏🏼
Tomorrow: Goddess Card -oops I think I said Intention Setting in the video :)
thank you for joining me 🙏🏼
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Day 1/16 of my Live Qoya Class. Today: What is Qoya?
Tomorrow: Introduction of class theme: Living Gratitude
thank you for joining me 🙏🏼
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everything in our lives is a helix, a sweet and sour mixture of the generations before us that have shaped our path - our beliefs, our stories, what we believe is possible
we also have free will, even when our coded body messages are wired in a particular way
*you can choose differently than those before you*
it takes commitment
this image was a burst of creative inspiration in an attempt to make physical the way it feels in my body and soul. a helix with my desires around me, on a foundation of self love and commitment - in a sea of the unknown
it's my commitment to myself, to the generations before and after me, is to live my best life, to be the most ME I can be. to do whatever is possible within me to live well and meet life as it comes
it's my Legacy of Love
with ritual and practice, self love and resilience, with the willingness to follow your desire when it makes no sense on paper, but you *feel it in your gut*
...anything is truly possible.
for me, right now, it's home and health.
what is on your helix?
what do you want for yourself?
for the generations before and after you?
what legacy are you creating?
what do you want your legacy to be?
Ways to work with me:
✨book a Discovery Call to chat about my Legacy of Love private work
✨book a Family Constellation session
✨come to my HOME QOYA class Sunday Nov 16
links in bio or DM me LEGACY
if you can dream it, you can have it
come into my world and let's create something beautiful together
xoxo
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I never thought I'd be someone to try intermittent fasting. I am cracking up that I am even writing these words.
But when we claim our desire, it takes us on a RIIIIIIDE.
My desire to be strong in my body, and have vibrant well being in my body in my menopausal years is driving most of what I do these days.
This has not been an easy path, because coded in my body are strong generational messages of being sedentary and fragile as I age. I am such a huge no this that.
Yet, these codes live inside of me so I have been working with my own resistance, self sabotage and doubt. Coded body messages can't be overridden, they need to be worked with lovingly, slowly, one thread at a time.
Perimenopause and menopause have been a huge wake up call for me. What I've always known about my body simply does not apply anymore. I have been learning so much and changing one thing at a time, one day at a time. It has been a quite humbling journey.
I also began my second Saturn Return a few months ago. So this all feels right on schedule. I can feel myself being molded and shaped into the next version of myself.
It feels GREAT. I fasted for 20 hours yesterday to hit autophagy and create deeper healing and efficiency of my cells. I slept for 9 of these hours and feel grounded and smooth in my body today.
One of the most humbling parts of this for me is how much being held in my beautiful beach home this winter is allowing this to all unfold for me.
Part 2 + Dance Invite in Comments 💃🏾
Our biggest desires ask us to grow and evolve. One of my biggest desires is to have my beautiful home to hold us in our life, love and creativity.
I have been in movement for many years and have learned so much on this journey, and I feel this leg of my journey coming to a natural close with us landing in our beautiful home.
Home has been a theme my whole life. I have had it, lost it, chased it and deeply desired it. I hold the vision with courage and trust as it continues to unfold.
What is your relationship with HOME?
Please dance with me to honor our shared relationship with HOME.
Sunday November 16 at 4-5:15pm est, I am hosting a Qoya Inspired Movement class with the theme of HOME. You are invited to dance your relationship with home and remember you are wise, wild and free.
Link to register in my bio. Let's dance together!
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Desire Image dump matching some recent episodes🔥🔥🔥
Where are you on the path of desire?!
We love you, thanks for listening.
Catch our latest episodes on Apple Podcasts & Spotify. Link in bio or DM us.
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What if you prioritized a relationship with your own body?
What would be different in your life if you truly listened to what she is telling you?
What if you got curious with yourself, instead of trying to fix things and solve every problem?
Slowing down and getting curious builds sovereignty.
Knowing your body is priceless in a world where being disconnected from your body is encouraged and profited form.
I offer private coaching and help my clients:
* Build trust with yourself
* Develop clarity instead of living in reactive mode and overwhelm
* Pause and return to yourself in real time
From Episode114 of the Desire as Medicine podcast, link in bio. I would love to hear your thoughts on this, and what your relationship with is with your own body, and how you would like to deepen that relationship.
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Do you have any of these characters in your family?
Which one are you? 🤣
It's good to laugh at the protections and identities we create to stay safe, and to feel like we belong. Gosh, how much we want to belong!
Do you need help taking off your masks?
Also, how do you deal with family members who wear these masks? How do you hang out with them at holidays and dinners, and not revert back to your own reactive mask wearer?
Reach out to me about my private work, Legacy of Love.
Or book a Constellation Session.
Both of these will get things moving for you as we enter holiday season.
Happy Halloween xoxo
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A relationship with your body is everything. It’s the only way to have a truly sovereign life.
If you’re disconnected from your body, overriding what she says, and have no boundaries, it’s time to reconnect with yourself. When you reconnect with your body, you reconnect with yourself. This is the starting point of your future.
I have lived the pain of disconnection and hold my clients through the pain of it. The practice of returning to your body is the path back to yourself.
What you receive in private coaching with me:
* You learn to track your physical signals so your decisions come from your center
* You speak your desires with clarity instead of confusion
* You build steadiness during stress so you stay grounded and clear
This clip is from Episode 114 of the Desire as Medicine podcast, link in bio.
I would love to hear how this landed for you.
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We build self-trust by listening to what we need and then acting on it.
Life was never meant to be perfect, and you were not meant to live in constant exhaustion or endurance.
Your fullness, truth, and voice are needed, in your family, your relationships, your work, and your business or work.
If you want change, please know it is possible, even when it feels uncertain. Change asks for your courage...the courage to take astep, even when you’re scared and the path is unknown.
Book a Discovery Call to explore working together. Being supported makes all the difference. You were not meant to do this alone.
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Rest. Coast. Take a nap.
Not every day is meant for deep internal work or breaking patterns.
Some days are just harder than others, and that’s ok. What a great opportunity to be gentle and loving with yourself.
Go on a walk, bake a cake or invite a friend to a movie. Go to bed early and get some good sleep. Sleep is restorative and healing.
Personally, I don’t believe my thoughts at night when I’m tired and emotional. I just tuck myself in, remind myself it’s okay to pause and remind myself that tomorrow is a new day.
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Loving you on the path of your becoming. How gorgeous the walking home to yourself is 🙏🏼
What legacy are you creating? Desiring?
Hi 💜 I’m Brenda
I help women reconnect with their true selves by untangling limiting beliefs and healing relationships - whether with children, parents, or family (living, passed, or estranged), so you can unlock your greatest potential and deepest joy.
Book a Discovery Call with me to chat about my Legacy of Love private work💜💜💜
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There was a time life and desire felt like a checklist - chasing, controlling and perfection.
Now, I have built a solid relationship with myself and desire built on trust.
I follow the breadcrumbs. I listen.
I let go of what isn’t aligned.
I trust trust trust, even when it’s not going my way or I don’t understand the path before me.
And in that surrender, I find freedom.
The spaciousness of this creates space for magic and miracles.
🎧 From Episode 112 of the Desire as Medicine podcast — link in bio.
In private coaching, this is the heart of what we practice together. Learning to trust your process, discern your truth, and move from control to surrender.
Here’s what you’ll experience when we work together:
* Guidance in releasing perfectionism and softening control
* Tools to listen to your body and trust the timing of your life
* Clarity about which desires are truly aligned and which are distractions
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When you trust your process, life stops being something to manage. It becomes something to meet.
Links in bio to schedule a call about working together in my signature program Legacy of Love. Or book yourself a Constellation Session. Whichever you choose, I look forward to working with you.
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True story🤣
Claim your desire. You’re worth it.
And be compassionate with yourself when you forget. It’s so natural to forget because the old ways are literally baked into our cells.
Receiving is divinely feminine and it’s worth it to build your receiving muscle.
And it makes life soooo much better☕️
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✨ After 3 years and 112 episodes of the Desire as Medicine podcast, we took a pause to check in on our own relationship with desire. Ooooooh this was a good one!
Some desires feel alive, easy, and natural 🌱. Others feel sticky, challenging, and uncertain 🌊. Both hold wisdom.
Brenda shared about building physical strength at 57 through pole dancing, a desire born from wanting to shift health patterns in her family lineage 🩰💪🏼. Catherine opened up about her uncertainty around retirement planning, showing how some desires ask us to slow down and take a different approach.
We also reflected on what it means to let go of gripping tightly to outcomes and instead trust the process 💫. As Brenda said in the episode, “I believe everything that’s happening is conspiring for me to have my desire.”
This conversation is an invitation for you too:
💖 What feels alive in your desire right now?
💖 What feels sticky or overwhelming?
💖 How has your relationship with desire shifted over time?
We’d love to hear your reflections. Share with us in the comments or messages.
Episode 112 of the Desire as Medicine podcast is live now 🎙️ Link in bio.
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Sometimes growth starts with tears. Well, for me lately it completely has! 🤣
Every time I go to pole dancing, I feel that mix of “I can’t” and “I want to.” The frustration, the resistance, the vulnerability. But by the end, I’m doing it. Maybe not perfectly, but I’m moving through the hard part and into my own strength.
That moment of “I didn’t think I could, but I did” is where transformation lives.🙌🏽
🎧 From Episode 112 of the Desire as Medicine podcast — link in bio.
Private coaching with me gives you the space to work through moments like this. To stay with what feels hard, and come out stronger, softer, and more you.
Here’s what you’ll experience in private coaching with me:
* Support in meeting your resistance with compassion, not shame
* Tools to stay centered through emotional intensity and self-doubt
* The inner satisfaction of following through on what you deeply desire
💗 You don’t have to do it alone. Growth gets easier when you’re held while doing the hard parts.
Links in bio to set up a free call to chat with me about working together.
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Witnessing this kind of transformation is what I love most about this work. Seeing someone release generations of pain and step into new possibilities is lasting change in action.
Family Constellation sessions help you break free from inherited patterns and open space for something new.
Book your session today. Links in bio or DM me xoxo
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These photos were taken just minutes apart, from different spots around the lake.
The message couldn’t have been clearer today:
Shift your perspective, and miracles reveal themselves. 🙌🏽✨
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Living our best life isn’t just about releasing what no longer serves us, it’s also about receiving the gifts of our lineage.
Letting in the love, the wisdom, the resilience, the joy. Our ancestors left us more than just their struggles. They left us their strength, their creativity, their devotion.
We get to choose what we carry forward. We get to let it in.
What’s one ancestral gift you’re ready to receive more fully? I want to know, tell me!
DM me about my private work, Legacy of Love, to receive the gifts of your lineage by clearing out the stagnant frustration and resentment. Or book a Constellation Session. Links are in my bio. xoxo
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Michelangelo created his incredible marble statues by carving away what did not belong, revealing the figure already hidden inside the stone.
That’s how I see the generational work I do with women.
Each time we follow desire, heal an old pattern, or release what isn’t ours to carry, we uncover more of who we truly are.
Our beauty has always been present, our true self is right there, waiting for us to reveal it, claim it and be it.
“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” ~ Carl Jung
Message me to learn about working together to create your own Legacy of Love, all by being YOU in this lifetime.
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Broth is HEALING MEDICINE ✨
The wisdom of broth is ancient, passed through the hands of women for generations. It carries joy, love, and intention.
I was blessed with a beautiful transmission of chicken soup from my grandmothers to my mother, and now to my daughter.
When I make broth, I’m offering you warmth, healing, and medicine for your body and soul.
What gifts have you received from your lineage?
This clip is from Episode 111 of the Desire as Medicine podcast, where we talk about the GIFTS of our lineage – link in bio.
And if you’re ready to explore your own lineage and daily life with this same level of love and intention, private coaching with me will support you to:
✨ Bring love and intention into your daily rhythms
✨ Create nourishing connections that feel grounding and supportive
✨ Honor your body’s wisdom as a source of healing
Let me know how this lands for you. What gifts have you received? I want to know.
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It’s easy to see what frustrates you about your family. But have you slowed down enough to notice the gifts that are there too? 🌺
If this speaks to you, if you know there are gifts but you can’t see them through the frustration and irritation, my private coaching, Legacy of Love, is for you.
When you work with me privately, I hold you through breaking cycles and living the life you are craving, building confidence, self love and self trust - which is the crux of building a foundation of SELF 🙌🏽
In private coaching with me, you will:
* Break cycles of frustration and blame in your family.
* Learn to see your family dynamics with clarity and compassion.
* Create more peace by honoring both challenges and gifts.
I’d love to hear from you - what gifts do you see in your own family? Share below ❤️
Listen to the whole episode - this clip is from Episode 111 of the Desire as Medicine podcast. Link in bio.
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A peek into my morning rituals, lovingly built over the past 20 years.
I don’t always wake up full of joy, clarity, or possibility. 🤣 (Though some days, I do!)
But that’s the beauty of ritual - it’s alchemical⚗️
Each morning, I move through practices I’ve created for my mind, body, and soul. I release fear, clear out crunchy thoughts, and come home to myself.
This is what self-responsibility in our life looks like.
We’re not just physical beings; we need support on every level - emotional, mental, spiritual.
I’m so grateful to begin my day this way. And no, life doesn’t have to be perfect to make it happen. I started this while teaching full-time with young kids at home.
Want support building your own morning ritual? Message me to get started. It’s my zone of genius!
What morning rituals do you have… or wish you did?
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When the next generation heals something we haven’t, it can feel confronting. It can be quite an ego hit.
Or it can be used as information to heal something inside of you that is asking for your love and attention.
In doing so, it opens the door for more compassion, for ourselves, our children and for our parents.
This is exactly the kind of thing I work on with my private clients.
If you feel called to do this deep work with me, set up a Discovery Call.
In private coaching with me, you will:
* Break free from inherited family patterns
* Build healthier, more loving connections with your children
* Create space for compassion toward yourself and your parents
Would love to hear your reflections in the comments. ❤️
From Episode 110 of the Desire as Medicine podcast – link in bio.
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Carl Jung said, “The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”
This is what drives us, what holds our desires and our callings in life. We want to live out our fullest, most authentic expression in our lifetime.
We are here to evolve.
Yet we are also born into a family with history. Our lineage is a meaty stew of the lifeforce, choices, and experiences from seven generations before us. And our choices today ripple into seven generations after us.
What a WILD and TRUE miracle, huh?
It matters what our grandparents did, because we are carrying forward pieces of their lives. Our bodies hold their traumas, their unspoken loyalties, and their gifts.
When we bring awareness to this, we open the possibility of change. We can choose what continues and what ends. We can honor the gifts while releasing the burdens.
This is the heart of generational healing...becoming who we truly are, while freeing the path for those who come after us.
Hi, I'm Brenda and I help women build confidence, self love and self trust while untangling complicated relationships and patterns, so you can be who you truly are in this life.
Book a call to work with me xoxo
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Be You.
It’s all welcome here💜
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Some of the patterns you struggle with aren’t yours.
Say what?
Meaning you didn’t create them. They were passed down through your parents, grandparents, and beyond.
And… while you didn’t start them, you are living with your own version of the pattern in your life.
Which means if you want change, it’s yours to do. 💣
💗 In private coaching with me, you will:
* Break cycles of inherited family patterns with compassion
* Recenter in your own truth instead of old conditioning
* Create new ways of connecting that bring more peace to you, your children and with your family / relationships
Book a Discovery Call to chat about working together. I’d love to hear from you.
This clip is from Episode 109 of the Desire as Medicine podcast – link in bio.
I’d love to hear how this lands for you. Share in the comments or DM me.
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Today was a huge win for me🙏🏼
I’ve been showing up - sticking with it through the tough moments: the doubt, the inner voices telling me to quit or that I’m not strong enough.
I’ve been working through the inherited belief that lives in my body that run completely counter to my desire to build strength.
Just last week, I could barely hold first position. I didn’t have the strength to climb even one level, let alone reach the top.
Today, I climbed the pole!!!
I’m celebrating every inch of that effort.
What desire is brewing inside you that makes you want to cringe?
Do it anyway⚡️⚡️⚡️
That’s where the juice is.
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Our soul signs up for the long game!
20 years, 40 years, a lifetime of learning.
The human part of us is not always so eager 🤣because growth can be messy and hard.
There’s a turning point, though, when we start to meet the lessons instead of resisting them.
We can even start to enjoy it… like that famous meme of putting the boot on our own head and saying, “Okay, let’s do this.”
💗 Ready to lean in to your own growth? And stop beating yourself up? And meet the lessons with compassion?
In private coaching with me, you will:
* Break free from perfection and regret
* Recenter in love, presence, and aliveness
* Create new patterns of self-acceptance and connection with yourself, your children, your parents and relationships
Book a Discovery Call with me and let’s chat about your deepest desires💕
This clip is from Episode 109 of the Desire as Medicine podcast – link in bio.
I’d love to hear how this lands for you. Share in the comments or DM me.
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Following desire asks for your courage and willingness to LEAP and TRUST. It’s messy, uncertain, and full of noise.
The question is, are you willing to sit with your desire and with yourself as you grow into the person who can have it? 🌺
If this touches you or you feel curious about how to navigate the process of DESIRE, reach out to me for private coaching. Message me DESIRE and we can set up a Discovery Call 💛
In private coaching with me, you will:
* Break free from inherited family patterns holding you back.
* Recenter yourself so you feel grounded, clear, and strong in daily life.
* Align your inner truth with your outer actions so your choices match who you are.
This clip is from Episode 108 of the Desire as Medicine podcast – link in bio.
How does this land for you? I’d love to hear in the comments. ❤️
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Shifting from right vs. wrong into growth and practice has been life-changing for me.
When we shift our lens from Pass / Fail, Win / Lose, an entire new world becomes possible.
It’s about asking, What did I learn today, and How do I want to shift tomorrow?
This mindset brings freedom. It makes space for compassion, for growth, and for the messy, human process of learning.
💗 Ready to stop beating yourself up and start leading with compassion?
In private coaching with me, you will:
* Break free from perfection and regret
* Recenter in love, presence, and aliveness
* Create new patterns of self-acceptance and connection with your children, parents and relationships
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This clip is from Episode 109 of the Desire as Medicine podcast – link in bio🎧
I’d love to hear how this lands for you. Share in the comments or DM me✨
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Commitment to myself and my desires is one of my highest values. My desires call me toward the highest version of myself, and I trust their intuitive pull.
I’m committed to myself and my body. Vibrant well-being and showing up for myself daily 🌊 is where the juice is.
To have the life I want, to feel like ME in my body, to live in vibrant health means building strength in perimenopause.
It feels powerful to rewrite my inherited story. It takes real commitment and holding myself through the hard parts, especially when the voices say to give up. And it means celebrating every win, no matter how small it may seem.
It’s possible to change our inherited beliefs and choose a new path for ourselves.⚡️⚡️⚡️
If you’re feeling the pull to choose differently for yourself, reach out about private coaching or schedule a constellation session.
I’m here for the women walking themselves home, one choice, one moment at a time.
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Desire is not random⚡️
Your desire comes to you for a reason to help you evolve. It may lands in your body as a spark, a wave, or a call. Each of your desires is coded for your growth and particular to you. 🌺
I find this to be so exciting!
If it touches you and you are curious about what this looks like in your own life, schedule a Discovery Call with me to discuss my 1:1 work.
When you step into private coaching with me, you will:
* Break free from inherited family patterns holding you back.
* Recenter yourself so you feel grounded, clear, and strong in daily life.
* Align your inner truth with your outer actions so your choices match who you are.
This clip is from Episode 108 of the Desire as Medicine podcast – link in bio.
I’d love to hear how this lands for you. Share your thoughts in the comments. ❤️
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We live in a world that expects everything NOW.
But real lasting growth means trying, failing, messing up, and still staying with yourself.
Following desire takes time because we are building muscle and skill to be the person who can have the desire!
This is where the medicine is. Can you stay with yourself no matter what? Are you willing to mess it up?
When you work with me privately, you will:
* Untangle family and relational patterns that drain your energy
* Build trust in yourself, even when you fall short
* Create lasting shifts in how you show up for your life and loved ones
This clip is from Episode 107 of the Desire as Medicine podcast – link in bio.
How does this land for you? Share in the comments.
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Life is messy and you will make mistakes.
You may even regret some choices, especially as a parent.
This is a hard pill to swallow.
But your kids don’t need you to be perfect.
They need your love, your presence, and your aliveness.
They need you to forgive yourself so you're not cloaked in shame and regret.
Only you can give this to yourself.
💗 Ready to stop beating yourself up and start leading with compassion?
In private coaching with me, you will:
~ Break free from perfection and regret
~ Recenter in love, presence, and aliveness
~ Create new patterns of self-acceptance and connection with your children
If this is you, don't wait another day. Link in my bio to book your Discovery Call.
You got this
xoxo Brenda
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DESIRE is an invitation to try, to fail, to stay vulnerable, and to keep showing up for ourselves.
✨Ponderings✨
Are you willing to hold your desire, even when it takes time? Can you stay with yourself when things don’t go as planned?
When you step into 1:1 coaching with me, you create space to slow down, hear yourself more clearly, and align with what you truly need.
In our work together, you will:
⭐️Identify the family dynamics that drain your energy
⭐️Break cycles of confusion and stress
⭐️Learn to set boundaries without guilt
⭐️Recenter yourself when triggered
⭐️Understand your hidden needs and how to honor them
⭐️Create practical shifts that bring more peace to your daily life
This is your chance to move from overwhelm into clarity. ❤️
This clip is from Episode107 of the Desire as Medicine podcast – link in bio.
I’d love to hear how this lands for you. Share your reflections in the comments.
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Caring for aging parents often brings a big role reversal. It asks so much of our time, energy, and hearts. ❤️
The question becomes: how do you stay connected to desire while tending to your parents? For me, it’s all about slowing down, simplifying, and remembering to give myself what I need so I can show up with love.
If you’re caring for parents, and maybe children too, it’s easy to lose yourself in the demands of both.
My 1:1 coaching offers you a place to breathe, reset, and find clarity.
Here’s how our work together supports you:
✨ Create boundaries that honor your needs while still caring for others
✨ Break cycles of stress and confusion in your family dynamics
✨ Recenter yourself so you feel grounded, resourced, and clear
Send me a message if you’re ready for support in navigating the complexity of caregiving while staying true to yourself ❤️
This clip is from Episode 106 of the Desire as Medicine podcast – link in bio.🔗
I’d love to hear - how does this land for you?
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What calls you? What lights you up?
You create your own moments and your moments create your life.
If your soul’s been nudging you… maybe this is your sign. What’s one thing you can say YES to today?
Feed yourself. Feed your soul.
Nourish your body.
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Part of being a woman who sits with her desire is that What we wanted yesterday might not hit today. 🌙
Desire shifts and evolves. Part of our work as women is learning to honor that truth, approve of it, and then communicate it, whether that’s with a partner, a friend, or ourselves.
Sometimes it’s sparkling water… and sometimes it’s sparkling grape juice.
🍇 The point is: your desires are allowed to change. Let’s get In approval of that and learn to communicate it.
🎙️ This clip is from Episode 104 🍇Reclaiming Your Turn-On: Why Desire Fluctuates and How to Keep It Alive🍇 of the Desire as Medicine podcast (link in bio).
How does this land for you? Do you let yourself change your mind when your desire shifts? I’d love to hear.
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I choose life, always. My beautiful radiant life.
I trust life and I am open to what the universe brings me. Because of that, magic and miracles are always flowing to life. I am truly grateful to receive life's gifts.
If you’re ready to open to life’s gifts too, book a Constellation Session with me and discover what’s waiting for you.
Link in bio to book, or DM me xoxo
Happy Birthday to me 🌺
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Family Constellations create space for deep release and profound shifts - for you and for your family.
If you feel the weight of what you’re carrying isn’t fully yours, or if you feel pulled down by the same thoughts or circumstances over and over, a Constellation session can help you return to yourself with more freedom, clarity, and love.
Ready to experience this kind of shift? DM me or use the link in my bio to set up your Family Constellation session. I'd love to support you in having more freedom in your life and in your relationships.
xoxo Brenda
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Who are you? I mean, your real, true self. The one you might be hiding, holding back, searching for, or just starting to understand.
What gets in the way of you fully stepping into your potential?
When you get genuinely curious about that, you’ve found your pot of gold. Follow it—it will lead you home to yourself.
Everything I do with clients is in service of helping them fully embody their true self. 🙏🏼
The world needs more women standing in their honest, true, embodied power.
Message me if you feel the call to do this work with me.💜 You can also schedule a free Discovery Call - link in bio. Would love to connect.
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Exercising feels different now than it has ever felt before. I have always done activities that challenged me physically, but I can honestly and humbly say I have never experienced this level of resistance in my body.
In June, I received a downloaded message in pilates and two clear paths were shown to me. One of medicines and illness, the other of working hard and being healthy and vibrant. It was clear that I was choosing health and movement and I firmly committed.
A few weeks later I hurt my knee teaching Qoya. I paused everything except swimming, let it heal, and then slowly got back to it for the past few weeks. Then I got bronchitis last week!
I see many examples of women in their 50s+ excelling at incredible things like martial arts, running, dancing and strength training. Those examples are so inspiring and motivating, but they don't live in my body. (yet)
Yet I feel so deeply called to this path.
Our bodies and systems are very intelligent and I respect that intelligence immensely. We are wired to choose the actions that preserve loyalty and belonging with our family, even when those choices go against what we consciously want.
This is where awareness, discernment and titration come in. To consciously choose something different is possible, and in doing so, we are often faced with deep reistance that tries to keep us loyal to the old way.
I see this as love. My system is trying to keep me safe by belonging. I used to rebel against these kinds of things, but rebellion is still being in the pattern - it hasn't been alchemized yet.
True change requires us to love the very thing we want to change. It lives inside of us, and why would we want to hate or rebel against any part of ourselves? All of our parts need our love.
We cannot hate ourselves into transformation.
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For women, self-denial, martyrdom, and deprivation are celebrated.
So when we finally give ourselves what we’ve been craving, whether it’s food, pleasure, rest, sex, or something we’ve longed for, it’s easy to slip into shame or regret.
Here’s the truth: that’s okay, too.
Every experience has a place on the map.
Awareness of all these places is the key to creating the life you want. ❤️
🎙️Clip from Episode 102: Hungry Ghosts: When Desire Becomes Insatiable
Link in bio to book a Discovery Call and to listen to the full episode 🔗💛
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I just listened to our most recent podcast episode, and I was moved to tears.
Catherine and I really nailed this one. I shared a story from years ago in my marriage when I didn’t know how to voice a desire I had. So I dropped it and grew resentful. This over and over again is a relationship killer.
It never occurred to me back then that I could keep showing up as a woman who owns and holds her desires, without getting stuck on If or How they would ever happen.
Desire truly wants to be expressed🌸
Period.
I used to keep it all in. It would get trapped inside me, and my mind would take over, spinning stories that made me, my relationship, and him all wrong.
I cried after listening to this episode because hindsight makes it all so clear. But the truth is, we have to go through it to truly embody the lesson.
I’m so grateful to now be a woman who knows and expresses her desires, big and small.
Listen to episode 101, Desire vs. Discontent: What Your Frustration is Trying to Tell You.
We are on all podcast directories. 🎧
What desire do you have that wants to be expressed?
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🎉 100 Episodes! 🎉
🎙️Episode 100: Celebrating 100 Episodes: Desire, Self-Love, and Transformation
We’re celebrating a huge milestone on the Desire as Medicine podcast—and it’s all thanks to YOU. 💫
What started as living room conversations has turned into a bold, beautiful exploration of desire, self-love, and transformation—for us, and for you.
Over 100 episodes, we’ve mapped a path for women (and the people who love them) to live more authentically. We’ve laughed, cried, stretched ourselves professionally, and stayed devoted to one core truth:
✨ Desire is medicine.
And when you follow it? Everyone around you benefits. 🌹
We’ve heard your stories. From the woman who stopped straightening her hair to embrace her natural beauty, to the man who finally felt seen in a world that rarely makes space for male emotion—you’ve shown us that this work matters.
And we’re just getting started. 🎙️📹
We’re moving into video clips, expanding the conversation, and continuing to explore the messy, magical terrain of desire. Thank you for walking with us. ❤️
Want to celebrate with us?
🎧 Leave a review on Apple Podcasts + tell us how this show has touched your life!
👇 Highlights from the journey so far:
💗 The Self-Love Series (ep 35+) reminded us: self-love is built through daily, consistent actions
🎨 Showing up to our desires grows us as creatives & professionals
🌱 Your stories reflect real transformation in body, emotions, & relationships
💬 Men are embracing emotional expression through this work
📵 Practical shifts (like phones out of bedrooms!) are landing
🔥 Our core message: When you follow desire, it uplifts everyone around you
🎧 Tune in on Desire as Medicine.
👇 Let us know your favorite way to rest below ⬇️
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I take space clearing quite seriously. I give myself ample time to get myself ready & eat well so I feel grounded and ready to hold space for someone’s family constellation. Women come to me with such deep personal gorgeous truths, desires and pains. 🙌🏽
I clear the space of anything not in the highest good of either of us, and our families and loved ones. Then I welcome our ancestors and spiritual guides who want to support us in the deep journey we are about to embark on.
What is truly magical about constellations is that we are putting attention on the unseen, the hidden and often entangled dynamics that are still playing out in our lives. Just being in the knowing field with love and intention has so much power.
After a session, there’s little to do except take care of yourself and allow the shifts and revelations to emerge.
The work is in showing up to the session, the willingness to speak what is heavy on your heart, or what you’ve been silently carrying all these years, to face it, and feel it. I hold my clients through this and it’s such a privilege for me to do so.
DM me about a Family Constellation session. Links in bio 💗
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Sometimes I feel it so clearly, a quiet hum in my body, like something ancient is rolling around in me.
It’s not just mine. It’s my mother’s, her mother’s and so on.... All the women who came before me.
Their breath lives in my body.
Their stories, spoken and unspoken, pulse through my blood.
I used to think it was just me, overgiving, overfunctioning, holding the weight of everyone else’s needs. But now I know: this is the voice of the lineage. And it’s asking to be heard.
Lately, when those familiar patterns rise up, I pause. I sit with the ache.
I ask: Is this mine? Is this old? Is there another way that aligns with my desires more?
This work is quiet and slow, and important.
Every time I choose honesty over silence, boundaries over resentment, rest over proving, I am honoring my ancestors and offering something new for my life. Solidifying the life I really want.
If you're feeling the rub too, if something deep inside is whispering to you, and you want guidance navigating it, then let's GO.
💌 Message me if you’re ready to listen with your body and rewrite your story. Book a Master the Madness 3-Session Reset, a Family Constellation session, or my deeper 1:1 Legacy of Love work. Book a Discovery Call to find what is best for you.
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The invitation to step deeper into your true self shows up as a feeling in your body.
It could be an activation, a zing, a whisper.
I call these Love Letters from the Past.
Quiet knowings that something is ready to shift.
This is the threshold between the old way and the new possibility.
Are you ready to listen to the messages your body receives? To rewrite your story?
Do you feel called to to deepen your embodied awareness in this way?
If so, I’d love to work together.
Ways to Work with Me:
Legacy of Love: 1:1 Journey
Family Constellation Sessions
Master the Madness: 3 Session Reset
Links in bio to book a Discovery Call to see which of my services are a fit for you.
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So many of us carry things that were never ours to begin with.
When we look around, we may see the way it’s always been done, and it's easy to get caught in the limitation that "this is how it is" and "this is how it always needs to be"
You are the architect of your life, and you get to decide how you want to live.
Even when it feels impossible, it is possible.
I shine my light for you to KNOW that something different is possible and available. If you want it, it wants you.
Your work is to trust your desire and lean in to the mystery of the unfolding. I am here to back you while you walk this path.
You can have the life you desire, for yourself and your family.
If any of these blind spots hit home, know you’re not alone.
If this speaks to you, and if you’re feeling called to go deeper, DM me about my Legacy of Love offerings. Links in bio.💜
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So proud of my client - this kind of voice message makes my day.
This is what change feels like.�It’s not always pretty, and not always easy.
✨ “I finally feel like I have a real chance to change this.”✨
�That moment of realization, when you stop running, stop bypassing and start seeing, is where you start the shift internally, and that has the power to change everything.
You don’t have to keep passing down what you were taught.�You can break the chain.
It starts with you, and it’s possible to shift it.
What do you want your legacy to be?
💜 If you’re ready to look at your family patterns with compassion and clarity, I’d love to work with you.
Book a free Discovery Call to explore which of my services is the best fit for you. 1:1 Legacy of Love, Family Constellation session, Master the Madness one month package are all available for you.
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Your freedom is an invitation to everyone around you - your soul, your family, your partner, your lineage.
Rewriting your lineage story is up to YOU. Because it starts with you.
It is possible to shift family dynamics, starting by focusing on yourself.
Ready to explore what’s possible when you stop carrying what isn’t yours to carry?
Book a free Discovery Call to see which of my new offerings is a fit for you. Family Constellation? Private 1:1? Master the Madness?
Would love to chat with you 💜
Link in bio to book 🔗
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The mother is the heart of the home. What she does shapes her family and her home environment. When she knows this in her bones, doors of possibility open for everyone she encounters.
She knows that prioritizing herself matters. She is honest and vulnerable, sets boundaries, and leads with love. She raises emotionally secure children who feel safe to express themselves, and she makes space for them to fall or fail, and build resilience.
And the men? They rise to meet her. When a woman stands fully in her power, she naturally invites her partner to rise into his.
This is not about perfection, it’s about showing up, doing the work, and trusting the process.
Looking back, I wanted to say to the mothers of my struggling students:
Do you see the environment you’re creating?
Do you see how fear is steering the family?
How, without meaning to, you block the very things you say you want?
You can change this...by starting with yourself.
Hi 💜 I’m Brenda and I help women claim their power by untangling stuck relationships with themselves, their children, parents and family (whether living, passed or estranged) unlocking their greatest potential and deepest joy.
If you’re a mother who doesn’t yet feel powerful enough to shift the energy in your home, or you fear you're becoming someone who’s lost in the overwhelm, you may be a fit for my Legacy of Love 1:1 program.
Link in bio to book.🔗💜
Even if it feels impossible, it truly IS possible to change your family dynamics.
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She came to me burned out, over-functioning, and cut off from her inner wisdom.
Now, she loves and trusts herself. And shows up with her family honestly and vulnerably.
This is what’s possible in our work together. 💫
Whether it’s a private Legacy of Love journey, a Family Constellation session, or a Discovery Call to feel into what’s a good fit for you, I'm here.
🌿 Message me to explore the next step.
Hi 💜 I’m Brenda and I help women untangle stuck relationships with their children, parents and family, whether living, passed or estranged, unlocking their greatest potential and deepest joy.
#LegacyOfLove #FamilyHealing #FamilyConstellations #EmotionalHealing #SelfTrust #GenerationalHealing #InnerWisdom #FemininePower #BreakTheCycle #EmbodiedHealing #HealingJourney #TraumaHealing #HolisticSupport #WomensHealing #ReclaimYourJoy #AncestralHealing #SelfLoveJourney #MotherWoundHealing #HealingTheFeminine #HealingThroughConnection #RewriteYourStory #NervousSystemSupport #ConsciousParenting #EnergyHealing #TransformYourLife #1on1Coaching #HealingSupport #HealingRelationships #ComeHomeToYourself
It is POSSIBLE to shift your family dynamics.
The fight that happened between the siblings years ago, sitting there like a casserole on the dinner table that nobody wants to talk about...
The aunt who never comes to family functions anymore because "she" will be there, and you really miss your aunt...
The uncle who shows up to every gathering but always drinks too much, and everyone walks on eggshells, pretending not to notice...
The way your mother asks you about your life in a way that makes you cringe...
What feels impossible to change, is QUITE POSSIBLE.
Sometimes, we move toward resolution through direct conversation.
But other times, (and here's the magic) the way in is indirect, through the energetic field that holds everything your family system couldn’t say or didn’t know how to heal.
This is where I come in. In a Family Constellation Session, I hold space for you to explore these unseen dynamics in a way that’s deeply transformative.
It's PURE MAGIC.
Because we are working with the field of POTENTIALITY...the realm beyond logic, beyond blame, beyond the black-and-white thinking we often bring to family relationships.
I could share dozens of stories with you from my own life in which I worked out an awkward, painful situations that resolved in the most unbelievable ways.
This is a gift of mine. Now I finally have a grounded structure to offer it to others. It's different from intuitive coaching, just as powerful.
In these sessions, I work with 'the field' calling in ancestors, inviting unseen resources and opening to possibilities your mind could never plan for.
What happens? Doors open, unexpected texts and phone calls appear, tension dissolves, people soften in ways that seemed impossible.
Are you ready?
QUANTUM Family Constellation Sessions with me start at $150 -link to book in my bio or DM me.
#familyconstellation #systemichealing #ancestralhealing #intergenerationaltrauma #quantumhealing #somatichealing #sacredfamilywork #emotionalinheritance
You can't plan flow.
But that doesn't mean I haven't tried.
Like, yesterday.😂
Flow comes from letting go of things being any specific way.
Allowing the grid to fill in with magic and miracles.
I am fully down for planning, scheduling and calendaring, Oh gosh I love that so much. A solid structure / container is important and in service to creativity, abundance and flow.
But you can't plan every little thing.
(said the Triple Virgo, y'all)
I got caught in a perfectionist trap yesterday - trying to plan every detail and make it just so.
There was a lot involved in my day yesterday, a lot of moving pieces, a lot of texts coming my way, and I got underneath it for a bit.
It's exhausting to my brain, my body. My entire being. That's how I know I am not in a state of openness - I feel heavy and stuck.
Because there's force and will in perfectionism - the very things that block flow.
Doors open and we have serendipitous things happen in our travels when we are open to receiving what life wants to offer us. When we try to plan every detail, we block flow.
I realized I was doing this yesterday morning as I was getting ready to head out to my niece's graduation.
Thank goodness for sisterhood - friends who hold me in love and truth, and tell me the truth in loving ways.
Thank goodness I am in approval of when I get stuck in my mind, and for the process of alchemy - turning tightness + overthinking into ease + flow.
By being present with what was happening inside of me...
The space opened for true grace and flow.
For magic and miracles, laughter and ease.
And I had the best day 🙏🏽
Traveling 5+ hours in 3 states - picking up my son, my sister, going to the chiropractor for my hurt knee on the way. Easy travels, being early, spaciousness and so much laughter and love with my family.
This is the life I am turned on by - the legacy I am creating - doing what I love, being in my body and fully available for the magic, money and miracles life wants to give me.
📸 Me at my HS, where I graduated 39 years ago, and where my niece graduated yesterday.
I've been deeply immersed in studying Family Constellations for the past 8 months and facilitated my first constellation today.
This work is pure magic!
In my work with women and moms, I have always worked with 'the field' - the energetic space that holds the unconscious and unspoken dynamics of family systems.
When we’re entangled with someone in our family and someone bravely gives attention to what’s unsaid or hidden, it shifts the field. It makes the seemingly impossible… possible
I’ve experienced this firsthand in my own family - deep resolution that’s blown my mind.
It’s quantum change: beyond logic, beyond time. Truth emerges from the invisible. Change doesn’t have to take years...it can happen in a moment of presence and love.
The constellation I facilitated today was with a woman who sought resolution with the father of her unborn child, who she chose to abort a few years prior.
She felt the tensions within herself, the grief that he isn’t available for resolution, and her growing acceptance of it all. She received a deeper acknowledgement for the duality of grief and love.
She’ll be sharing this experience with her family this summer, and she discovered that being seen in this truth is the medicine she needs. Resolution is possible within her and in sharing it with those she loves.
This will continue to unfold for her in the next few weeks/months/years.
Constellations offer a different path to healing, bringing clarity to stuck patterns, relief from inherited burdens, and a felt sense of belonging.
Want to experience what's possible in the space of the seen and unseen?
I am offering 2 complimentary sessions for anyone who would like to experience a 1:1 Family Constellation. In exchange, I am asking for a testimonial about your experience.
Link in bio to book or DM me.
Thank you and looking forward to the magic that unravels 🧚
#familyconstellations #thefield #ancestralhealing #quantumhealing #systemichealing #healingtrauma #generationalhealing #sacredmedicine #seenandunseen #energetichealing #inheritedtrauma #familypatterns #healingthemotherline #healingjourney #quantumchange #desireasmedicine
Our Bodies Know the Way
Part 2: The Movement
I recently felt the call to go back to pole dancing.
Ten years ago, I used to take the train into NYC every week after teaching 6th graders all day. On paper it sounds a little wild, but it was always invigorating to follow my desires like that.
Now, on the tail end of my peri-menopausal journey, I’m feeling the call again — this time with a deeper urgency to build strength and vitality in my body. And wow… it’s not easy.
But like anything truly worth it, desire requires us to walk through gates. To reach it, we often have to face resistance, fear, and old stories that try to hold us back.
I’m quite clear: I need to rebuild strength. And that means actively going against the pull to be sedentary, to believe the inherited stories that women grow weak, sick, or fragile as we age.
I’m standing at a choice point — and I’m answering the call.
I showed up for my second pole class recently and felt stronger than I did the first time. Woot!
Midway through, the teacher demonstrated a gorgeous pole inversion that looked completely impossible to me. I watched as others tried it, telling myself I’d just do what I could. But that inversion? NOPE.
Still, I tried what I could. I grabbed the pole with my right hand, lifted my left leg and wrapped it around the pole. I leaned my body down and reached for the pole with my left hand.
My goodness, isn’t that enough?! My left foot was staying on the ground.
Other women were trying the full pose and I was genuinely in awe. It didn’t feel possible for me.
Then the teacher came over and offered to spot me. She was calm, confident, and absolutely certain I could do it.
I was a YES.
We moved together; three limbs on the pole, one foot still planted firmly on the floor, my pink sparkly toenail polish staring back at me.
You want me to lift THAT foot?
All my limbs on the pole?
Nothing on the floor?
But in that moment, I chose…
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Our Bodies Know the Way
Part 1: My Message
I went to the gym last week and basically got my a$$ kicked. Pilates is… HARD.
But wow, it feels good to do hard things.
To move through something that feels intimidating, and come out the other side knowing you did it.
At the end of class, I cried.
Tears of gratitude and joy. (and that it was over, lol)
Changing patterns in our life feels exactly like this...hard and worth it.
I don’t know if everyone experiences this, but I can feel the women who came before me in my body.
Their presence gives me information and insight.
SO TRIPPY, I know…
During that pilates class, I received a somatic generational download.
I felt the energy of my female lineage.
And I was shown that I’m currently at a choice-point about how I want to grow older.
Right now, I don't feel very strong. Some parts are very strong from daiily yoga, but I do feel a change at 56. As we age, bone density decreases, and strength training becomes more important than cardio.
My body is asking me to listen MORE.
Some of the women in my family history have had histories of illness or physical challenges. Many were fairly inactive.
I want a path where I am strong, agile and can keep up with my future grandchildren.
This desire is clear to me, and my body was clear in pilates that it's action time. Now. Time to level up.
She’s speaking, and I’m listening.
To make this choice, I am going against the silent messages passed down to me.
Messages like:
Staying sedentary is normal and preferred
Being weak and fragile is part of life
Everyone gets sick as they get older
These kinds of beliefs live in our cells.
It’s why real change can feel so hard.
Because our desires for how we want to live are often in conflict with our body's messages that can feel like truth.
Is there something you want to shift, but it feels hard?
Like it takes all of you?
If you’re feeling pulled to make a change in life, chances are it’s your body asking you to choose differently than the messages you received.
It's big work. I get it. I am here to guide women through these portals. DM me if this is you, and let’s see if working together fits,
You got this.
I was swimming in the lake this afternoon and I saw a couple hovering the dock.
As I got closer and swam past them, I waved hello, and she called out, Is it cold?!
Yes! I said, but only for a moment. Then it feels amazing.
She hesitated, dipping her hand in, announcing how cold it felt. I could feel how much she wanted to jump in, but the cold stopped her.
As I happily swam by, the birds were chirping and a turtle dunked down. I was feeling so good being in the water - it was smooth and cool.
And I thought…
Desire is exactly like this.
There is a gate to having what we want.
We feel the call and we want it. And to have it, we must be willing to take a risk or be a little uncomfortable.
Maybe that’s what makes it exciting? Or fulfilling? Or helps us grow?
She did eventually get in the water. A few minutes later, she was laughing and swimming and I heard her call out to her partner, Come in, it feels great and I’m so warm now!!
He hesitated, of course 🤣
What do you want? Are you willing to walk through the gate to have it?
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Ever find yourself trying to change someone else?
I’m the first one raising my hand over here 🙋🏽♀️
“If only they’d do this differently, or stop doing that, everything would be SO MUCH better…”
But here’s the truth:
✨ That’s the REAL unmanageability.
✨ It’s how we keep ourselves STUCK
✨ We can’t change anyone - not even if they say they want to.
Al-Anon reminds us:
💫 You didn’t cause it
💫 You can’t control it
💫 You can’t cure it
(12 step)
When someone you love is chaotic or draining, the urge to fix them can feel so strong.
But that only steals your peace and power.
The real power move?
Turn the focus back on you.
That’s where your TRUE clarity and freedom live.
Ask yourself: What do *I* need right now that I can give myself? What boundary do I need or what pleasure can I turn towards?
Hi, I’m Brenda 🍑 I help women untangle stuck family dynamics so they can feel clear, grounded, and lit up from within.
🌺 Link in bio to book a Sanity Saver or Discovery Call.
YOU GOT THIS.
#codependencyrecovery #alanonwisdom #detachmentwithlove #selftrust #emotionalboundaries #healingjourney #breakthecycle #familydynamics #generationalhealing #emotionalresilience #nervoussystemhealing #selfleadership #healingcodependency #boundariesarebeautiful #cyclebreaker #spiritualgrowth #selfregulation #mentalhealthawareness #consciousrelationships #healingfromwithin #stoppeoplepleasing #lovewithoutlosingyourself #brendafredericks
Ever find yourself trying to change someone else?
If only they would do XYZ differently, things would be SO MUCH better!
Geez, I have done this so much in my life.
Newsflash: this is the real unmanageability. Even more than the other person’s behavior. We can never change anyone, even if they say they want to change. It can feel truly maddening.
Al‑Anon says:
✨ You didn’t cause it
✨ You can’t control it
✨ You can’t cure it
When we love someone with drama-filled or draining behavior, the pull to fix or change is so seductive. What it really does is drain your life force energy and destroy your peace because we have ZERO control over what others do.
The power move is to put the attention back on yourself. This is what I help my clients with.
Hi 💜 I’m Brenda and I help women untangle their relationships with their children, parents and family (whether living, estranged or passed), unlocking their greatest potential and deepest joy.
LInk in bio to book a Sanity Saver Session or Discovery Call with me.
#codependencyrecovery #alanonwisdom #detachmentwithlove #selftrust #emotionalboundaries #healingjourney #breakthecycle #familydynamics #generationalhealing #emotionalresilience #nervoussystemhealing #selfleadership #healingcodependency #boundariesarebeautiful #cyclebreaker #spiritualgrowth #selfregulation #mentalhealthawareness #consciousrelationships #healingfromwithin #stoppeoplepleasing #lovewithoutlosingyourself #brendafredericks
Swimming through the waves of life 🌊
Every path is different. Sometimes our path is smooth, sometimes rocky. Over a lifetime, definitely a mixture of both.
Unlimited potential begins when we lean into the rocky times- the tensions with family, our children, our parents.
We often repeat the situations over and over in order to really get the lessons.
This is how we change our reality over time.
Hi 💜 I’m Brenda and I help women untangle their relationships with their children and parents, and unlock their greatest potential and deepest joy.
Generational change is possible and it begins with you, following your desire and your knowing that something MORE is possible.
Because, you’re right, there is.
Link in bio to book sessions or a discovery call with me.🔗💛
#HealingInMotion #DesireAsMedicine #SoulJourney #MotherLineMagic #GenerationalHealing #BreakingCycles #InnerWork #WavesOfBecoming #AncestralHealing #PoetryInMotion #ConsciousParenting #Reparenting #ShadowWork #SelfDiscovery #SpiritualGrowth #EmotionalHealing #HealingJourney #RadicalSelfLove #SacredFeminine #DivineTiming #FamilyWounds #LegacyOfLove #RiseAndHeal #HealingThroughWater #TransformYourStory #PathOfHealing #SacredJourney #InnerChildHealing #AwakenedWoman #CycleBreaker
When we stop pretending and start honoring ourselves…
everything begins to shift.
The pressure lifts.
The resentment softens.
And we are able to show up more present, loving, and clear.
It might feel counterintuitive to spend time or money on yourself.
But your loved ones feel the difference when you nourish yourself in the deepest of ways.
They get the real you, not the burnt-out, bitter, or watered down version.
It may be messy, but it’s real.
It’s not selfish. It’s sacred.
It’s necessary.
It’s the beginning of freedom, for yourself and for your loved ones.
#TangledUp #TakeCareOfYou #LegacyOfLove #SelfCareIsSacred #ChooseYou #DesireAsMedicine #BreakTheCycle #SoftnessIsStrength #EmotionalHealing #ComeHomeToYourself #HealingHelpsEveryone #FamilyHealing #CycleBreaker #WomenDoingTheWork #UndoTheMadness #NervousSystemHealing #RestIsRevolutionary #GenerationalChange #LoveWithoutResentment #StopPerforming #RadicalSelfCare #BoundariesAreLove #PeaceOverPerfection #SacredSelfCare #HealingMothers #MatriarchsRise #HealingIsResistance #SelfCompassionMatters #YouAreTheMedicine #HonorYourCapacity
It’s not just about your patterns or pain.
It’s about what you inherited, what you watched the women before you do, and how you choose to live now.
It's about what you choose to pass on (or not).
It's also about recognizing the gifts you received. That's another post, stay tuned.
It’s the moment you realize:
You’re living out patterns that started long before you.
You hear your parent's voice in your head, or coming out of your mouth, and it stops you in your tracks.
You respond with upset, silence, guilt, or shock…and wonder, where did that come from?
Pretty much everything we do in our lives we have learned from the generations before us. These ways of being are coded into our bodies. But you can change it with awareness, the desire to shift it, and a lot of patience and self-compassion.
Examples of Patterns that are Passed Down:
(there are millions of examples and they're different for everyone)
Staying silent to "keep the peace"
Feeling responsible for everyone’s emotional state
Choosing emotionally unavailable partners and calling it love
Feeling guilt for resting, laughing or setting a boundary
Controlling your kids or partner because you were raised in chaos
Overworking, Overspending, Overeating
Hating men
Generational change is the brave decision to see what’s been unseen before.
To name the patterns.
To feel what’s been unattended to before.
To say: It may have started before me, but it changes with me.
Not from blame.
But from deep, honest love and desire.
Because when you change, you stop passing down what you never asked for, but always carried.
You create more choice.
More space.
More freedom.
This is legacy work.
Sacred work.
And the heart of everything I do.
🌺 You don’t have to do it alone.
What do you want your LEGACY to be?
Book a Discovery Call to see if working together is a fit. No obligation or pressure ever, just honest conversation and connection.
#BreakTheCycle #LegacyOfLove #DesireAsMedicine #GenerationalChange #MotherlineMagic #CycleBreaker #ChangeIsSacred #BeTheOne #FamilyPatterns #EmotionalClarity #UndoTheMadness #ShiftingTheStory #TriggeredButTrying #WomenDoingTheWork #RealTalkHealing #ChangeMakers
You want to be chill, feel centered and smooth… but somehow you end up managing emotions, avoiding drama, and passing the potato salad like a peace offering.
Family gatherings can be tricky.
Let’s untangle love from obligation.
Book a Sanity Saver Session with me so you can feel more freedom and joy in your life, and at your summer family events.
Link in bio or DM me.
#TangledUp #FamilyDynamics #EmotionalLabor #BreakTheCycle #LegacyOfLove #DesireAsMedicine #GenerationalHealing #CycleBreaker #MotherlineHealing #HealingIsMessy #UnlearnAndReclaim #FamilyPatterns #NervousSystemSupport #EmotionalHealing #SoftIsStrong #SacredFeminine #TriggeredButTrying #HealingTogether #SelfLoveInAction #UndoTheMadness #SpiritualHealing #VirgoEnergy #WomenDoingTheWork #InnerChildHealing #HealingTheMotherWound #BodyRemembers #IntergenerationalHealing #RealTalkHealing #MakeItSacred #desireasmedicine
The Prom Paradox 🤵🏽👗
Your baby’s going to prom… and suddenly your heart is full of memories, fears, and questions about how much to say or spend.
You have your own prom memories. Where did the time go?!
You want them to feel free.
But part of you still feels responsible for every little thing.
What is yours to hold? What is theirs to figure out?
Let’s untangle that.
Because control isn’t the same as care.
Ready to Untangle the prom paradox?
✨ A few Sanity Saver sessions still available at $111 before the price goes up to $144. Book now to get clarity and breathe easier.
#TangledUp #PromSeason #LetThemFly #ParentingTeens #ConsciousParenting #SanitySaver #FamilyBoundaries #LegacyOfLove #EmotionalClarity #ParentingSupport #BreakTheCycle #HealingFamilyPatterns #PromEmotions #ParentYourselfFirst #FamilyDynamics #LineageHealing #TeenParenting #GrowingUpFast #SelfRegulation #MothersWork #ParentingWithGrace #UntangleTheMadness #LetGoWithLove #PromFeels #BoundariesAreLove #MindfulParenting #HealingTheLineage #ParentingSupport #StopTheCycle #FamilyHealing #RaisingTeens
Frazzled?
You may be tangled up in your kid’s choices, feelings, or future.
You’re not alone.
From graduation tears to prom stress to the wild ride of summer plans… parenting can stir up a lot.
Sending you a gentle reminder today that love doesn’t mean control and peace doesn’t come from fixing everything. We're all learning how to ride this life and we keep going every day, doing the best we can. I want to help you do your best and be self-loving along the way.
✨ A few Sanity Saver sessions still available at $111. Link in bio. 🔗
I'd love to work with you to have more inner peace and sanity. When you clear your own internal clutter and get more clear, your loved ones will naturally benefit.
Let’s untangle what’s yours, what’s theirs, and what belongs to something bigger 💛
#parentingwithpresence #emotionalboundaries #motherhoodjourney #sanitysaver #tangledupparenting #graduationfeels #promseason #summerstress #healinggenerations #parentingteens #breakingcycles #legacyoflove #MindfulParenting #EmotionalResilience #ParentWithPresence #NervousSystemSupport #GenerationalHealing #UntangleWithLove #SacredBoundaries #GrowingWithYourKids #TendToYourself #HeartCenteredParenting
It’s graduation season…are you celebrating or silently spiraling?
Probably a little of both? 💨
Where are you getting tangled up with your child, teen or college graduate?
What’s yours to carry? … and what’s theirs to figure out?
Letting go of control doesn’t mean letting go of love. It creates space for the love to breathe.
Untangling the tangle allows more breath to enter. When you’re more clear and centered, everything really does magically feel better.
The magic is your YES to getting untangled.
✨ Need a little SANITY around graduation season?
A few Sanity Saver sessions are still available at $111 (price goes up to $144 soon).
This one hour session helps you clear the emotional clutter and make sense of what’s really going on.
Let’s untangle it together. 💬 Drop a 🎓 if this hit home.
#TangledUp #GraduationSeason #ParentingSupport #MotherhoodJourney #ParentingTeens #EmotionalFreedom #LettingGoWithLove #LegacyOfLove #ConsciousParenting #MotherhoodUnfiltered #GenerationalHealing #SanitySaver #ParentCoach #BreakTheCycle #TeenParenting #HeartCenteredLiving #BoundariesMatter #FamilyDynamics #HealingTogether #EndOfSchoolYear #RitesOfPassage #InnerClarity #SupportForMoms #MindfulParenting #SelfTrust #EmpoweredMothers #ParentingWithGrace #HoldTheLineage #FromMadnessToMagic #EmotionalWellbeing
Tangled Up. Let’s Untangle it.
You know the feeling - when love, worry, control, hope, and heartbreak all get mixed together.
You want to support your kids, your family…
But are you stepping in or overstepping?
Are you honoring their path, or gripping too tightly to your own fear?
✨ My new series is a gentle unraveling…so you don’t have to✨
Real moments, messy questions, and honest reflections on where we get tangled up as parents, and how to find freedom again.
✨ First up: Graduation Edition. Then we’ll get into: BBQs, Prom, Father’s Day, Summer Plans, and more.
What’s yours, what’s theirs, and what belongs to something bigger?
Because you want peace.
And your kids deserve your presence, not your panic. 💛
Need a little SANITY this season?
A few Sanity Saver sessions are still available at $111 then the price goes up. Link in bio to book. This one hour session helps you clear the emotional clutter and make sense of what’s really going on.
I’d love to work with you to untangle the mess.
#TangledUp #FamilyDynamics #ConsciousParenting #LetGoToGrow #GenerationalHealing #ParentingSupport #EmotionalFreedom #LegacyOfLove #BreakTheCycle #HealingJourney #SanitySaver #BoundariesMatter #ParentingWisdom #CodependencyRecovery #SelfAwarenessMatters #FamilyPatterns #InnerWork #CompassionateParenting #ReleaseControl #AuthenticLiving #ParentWithClarity #MothersOnAMission #HealingStartsWithYou #CenteredParenting #AncestralHealing #EmpoweredMoms #MindfulMotherhood #ParentingTools #EmotionalResilience #TransformationStartsHere
True transformation happens when we turn inward and tend to our own wounds and patterns. When we clean up our own act with honesty and love, it ripples outward, shifting not only how we parent but also how we relate to our own parents and ancestors.
This kind of deep lineage work breaks cycles that have lived for generations. It creates space for healing, freedom, and a new legacy rooted in love and awareness.
What you want matters, how you carry yourself matters, how you feel matters. Not only for you, but for the family line that flows through you.
When you put your own life mask on, it naturally ripples into your family. Your children, your parents, your lineage, our world, desperately needs women willing to step into their true power, and break the wounded cycles of scarcity, deprivation, survival.
The gifts are endless, I can give you a million stories from my own life on why it matters to take care of yourself, and how it effects your family.
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Letting go is an act of faith.
And a *necessary* pose in parenting.
It’s letting trust lead as opposed to control.
Trusting that your kids have their own path. That they have their own God.
It asks you to be with your own emotions as they fall and may be hurting. This is how they learn resiliency. (You too!)
When you care for your emotions, fears and worries, you’ll have more clarity and spaciousness to be present to them, instead of your fears and worry leading. Or worse, them having to take care of your emotions.
How can you be with your own worry and fear? How can you lead your children with more love and trust today?
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The Art of Letting Go, Part 3
Letting go isn't a one-time decision.
It's a daily practice of surrender. Especially in this digital age where your child is just a text away, it’s tempting to check, ask, intervene.
But just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
So how DO you let go?
You face the truth:
You’re not in control. You never were. Not if you want your child to truly live, follow their dreams, fall and learn to get up, and grow stronger from it.
You feel your fear. Let it move through your body instead of spilling into your child’s life. That may mean crying or punching pillows. In fact, I recommend getting it out this way.
You face your worst-case scenarios, the mental movies where everything goes wrong. And then you come back to the present moment, where everything is okay right now.
You trust…in them, in life, in the unseen.
Y
ou remember…
They have their own path.
They have their own timing.
They even have their own god.
Letting go is not abandonment.
It’s faith in action.
Letting go looks different at different ages. It’s up to you as a parent to attune to what’s truly needed at each stage of development. Sometimes that means stepping in, and sometimes it means stepping way back.
So next time you feel the urge to call, text, fix, drop your unsolicited opinion…
Pause. Breathe.
Feel.
And choose trust.
Let go. Again.
Repeat forever.
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There is a time to let your children GO.
They are supposed to individuate, to create their own lives.
This is the natural order of nature.
Letting go looks different at all ages of development. When they're little, you show, help, guide and stand behind them. And as they grow up, you may stand further away, being there as needed, sometimes in the background.
As parents, it's our responsibility to calibrate what is needed at different stages of development.
Please know that your constant questions and concerns and worries and texts are holding them back.
If you don’t let them go, if you don't back them, they will either have to defy you, take care of you, or cut you off.
I get it...letting go is scary. it asks us to release control. We reach for control because we want them to be safe.
In the letting go, you will be faced with your own fears and worries.
What if you faced those fears?
What if you gave your children s p a c e? To figure it out themselves?
To fall, to fail, to GET UP?
Stop hovering, directing, giving your unsolicited opinion.
Stop infecting them with your own fears.
What if your own cup was running full? And you got curious? And were available for honest conversation?
What would be possible for your growing adult child then?
Imagine what may shift in your family if you gave your children space to learn who they are? To become resilient?
Who would YOU have to be to do let your child go? To drop your agenda?
And who would your child become in this spaciousness and love?
Who would YOU become?
Where can you give your child more space today?
What opens up when you lead with love instead of fear?
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If you are attuned to your child, the times to let go will be very obvious.
They will simply state it. They will lean in the direction of their dreams and desires, and you have the power to encourage or kill it in each moment.
If you are afraid, they will feel it.
If you don't believe in the possibility of dreams, they will feel it.
If you limit them with your own worries, they will resent it.
Even though it may not seem so, they want your acceptance and love.
Let me ask you.
What is it you truly want for your children?
Do you want them to follow their heart’s desire?
Or only if it fits into your model of safety and security?
Do you want them to follow their dreams and take risks?
Or only if they don’t get hurt, and YOU feel safe?
Do you want them to speak for themselves and be fully expressed?
Or only when it agrees with your beliefs? Or doesn’t ruffle the family feathers?
Part 2 tomorrow - stay tuned.
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If you’re tired of spinning in the same cycles, wondering “Will it ever change?”, this is your sign. 💫
🍯Yes, you can feel sane in family madness. (When others are driving you crazy!)
🍯Yes, you can create change that lasts.
🍯Yes, you can shift your lineage with love.
Taking action on your desires and investing in your inner peace is a huge part of self love. And a woman who is soft and loves herself is magnetic and radiant.
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